It is important to be able to deal with difficult people, and this is something that I want to discuss this week, but today a more poignant point came across to me.
Compassion for ourselves.
If we cannot have Compassion for ourselves, and only use it for others, then we can never truly accept ourselves, I think. I find myself constantly pushing myself to be a good person, to do good things, to improve myself, and when I fail I oftentimes lack Compassion for myself. This is not a good thing really. I should ultimately be able to also be Compassionate towards myself, which interestingly enough, almost seems to be a paradox in light of what I discussed yesterday.
However, it is not. We are also people, and we are usually even harder on ourselves than others. It is for this reason that, even though I must understand someone’s pain in the context of my own life, I seem to not be able to consistently acknowledge and accept suffering, failure, disappointment.
I find that I treat myself like an alien sometimes, or like someone I hate.
Ultimately, through Compassion towards the self, we can grow in the most beautiful way.
As always, this is a place of respect and of acceptance of ideas, with the opportunity for constructive discussion. I encourage posting a comment, or even just doing self-reflection and journaling about these ideas.
So that we may all become better people.